Love at first sight?

takingarms1 · Post by **takingarms1** » Tue Jul 19, 2011 8:26 pm

I don't think it makes sense to define "true love" as being possible only with one other person in the world. In fact I think that's pretty ludicrous.

That does not mean that true love does not exist, however.

link120 · Post by **link120** » Tue Jul 19, 2011 9:03 pm

If you can find the time
To give your love to me
I will wait for you
If that's all you need
If you can find the time
If ever you're free
Just drop me a line
And tell me where you'll be
I'll be right here
If you can find the time
Just be sincere
If you can find the time
I'll wait for you
But if you can't find the time
Then cut me loose

Cause I don't have the time
And I don't have the patience
What do you take me for?
Why am I still waiting?
Cause while you decide.
I'm $#@!ing suffocating.
Cause if you can't find the time
My bleeding heart won't make it x2

If you can find the time
To give your love to me
Just drop me a line
And tell me where you'll be
I'll be right here
If you can find the time
Just be sincere

Vortrog · Post by **Vortrog** » Tue Jul 19, 2011 10:18 pm

Gandalf2 wrote:QUOTE (Gandalf2 @ Jul 19 2011, 09:28 PM) It's tough to discuss though as every person's experience is different. For example I would say that marriage can be a wonderful thing and MrC says there is no such thing as true love/bonding for life. That's at least partly because I'm happily married & he's divorced.

Bingo.
In my experience, love/lust initiates the wheels that may lead to marriage, but it is a whole different dynamic (that includes love, but not run by it) that keeps it going as you would know. But that's a different discussion.

Interesting that our national station Triple J are running Love month at the moment.
http://www.abc.net.au/triplej/hack/

Monday's show is on topic. Below in Win format, there are others
http://www.abc.net.au/triplej/media/mod/hck1.asx

Click on other formats

MrChaos · Post by **MrChaos** » Wed Jul 20, 2011 1:01 am

Gandalf2 wrote:QUOTE (Gandalf2 @ Jul 19 2011, 06:28 AM) I don't think you can form a lifelong bond in a brief moment.

It's tough to discuss though as every person's experience is different. For example I would say that marriage can be a wonderful thing and MrC says there is no such thing as true love/bonding for life. That's at least partly because I'm happily married & he's divorced.

Maybe some people who do say they felt love at first sight do end up staying together but I'd guess a lot more say they don't. You need to really know someone well & share experiences in order to have a lieftime bond.

I have never thought that true love didn't exist or isn't possible
True love is to death do you part kind of thing by the very nature of it. It persists even if for some life circumstance, including death, you never see each other again. It is as rare as rare can be, in my book. The kid in Slumdog Millionaire was showing the beginnings of true love. but we have to wait both their entire lives to watch and see if it really was true love. True love never dies in a cliche filled nutshell... well at least until you both do.

As for not believing that people bond for life I'd be an imbecile if I didn't think it occured considering it is all around me.
Mating for life doesn't require one to even like the other let alone one has found true love. Being married is a state one can be in and never, ever experience a single pange of love for the other. I hope you're worldly enough to know that this happens all the time, all over the planet.

I think what you were really shooting for in your ying yang commentary using me and you in the roles was:
I have a jaded view of marriage, skewed to a male's perspective, given my life experiences
You have a rose colored view of marriage, skewed to your religon's perspective, given your life experiences
However we both appear to agree "love at first sight" is not a valid concept
Did I get it right?

Probably not since it is pretty damn difficult to sum a person's world view, especially if you know them only from a forum persona, in only a few sentences.

With a great big hug
MrChaos

vogue · Post by **vogue** » Wed Jul 20, 2011 7:10 am

FreeBeer wrote:QUOTE (FreeBeer @ Jul 12 2011, 06:52 PM) When she asks you if you believe in love at first sight, you say "yes", stupid. It's ok if it only lasts until breakfast.

timeless advice right here

Kopperhead · Post by **Kopperhead** » Wed Jul 20, 2011 7:38 am

Well, I still beleive in true love and in that there are as different ways of feeling love as persons on Earth...

But if the Swiss girl I was having a beer with yesterday night hadn't split to her place my beleifs would be a bit tattered right now...

Guess she saw the predator eyes for just a sec...

And I'm still thanking her... I am such a pervert... and "my" girl enjoying the sun and the beach like 400 km's away...

Well, I'm pure and nice and still with my cape... I'm glad of it

SgtMajor · Post by **SgtMajor** » Wed Jul 20, 2011 9:28 am

Masta don't lie to us.

http://i77.photobucket.com/albums/j79/Mast...01_563722_o.jpg

Gandalf2 · Post by **Gandalf2** » Wed Jul 20, 2011 11:53 am

MrChaos wrote:QUOTE (MrChaos @ Jul 20 2011, 02:01 AM) I have never thought that true love didn't exist or isn't possible
True love is to death do you part kind of thing by the very nature of it. It persists even if for some life circumstance, including death, you never see each other again. It is as rare as rare can be, in my book. The kid in Slumdog Millionaire was showing the beginnings of true love. but we have to wait both their entire lives to watch and see if it really was true love. True love never dies in a cliche filled nutshell... well at least until you both do.

As for not believing that people bond for life I'd be an imbecile if I didn't think it occured considering it is all around me.
Mating for life doesn't require one to even like the other let alone one has found true love. Being married is a state one can be in and never, ever experience a single pange of love for the other. I hope you're worldly enough to know that this happens all the time, all over the planet.

I think what you were really shooting for in your ying yang commentary using me and you in the roles was:
I have a jaded view of marriage, skewed to a male's perspective, given my life experiences
You have a rose colored view of marriage, skewed to your religon's perspective, given your life experiences
However we both appear to agree "love at first sight" is not a valid concept
Did I get it right?

Probably not since it is pretty damn difficult to sum a person's world view, especially if you know them only from a forum persona, in only a few sentences.

With a great big hug
MrChaos

Yes this is all true, I hope I didn't offend you with my rather brief & quickly-written statement.

Malicious Wraith · Post by **Malicious Wraith** » Wed Jul 20, 2011 5:11 pm

MrChaos wrote:QUOTE (MrChaos @ Jul 13 2011, 02:04 AM) Sorry kiddies, marriage for love is a mostly western society 19thish/20th century experiment that is an abject failure.

There is this moderately well known 16th Century story that would have you think that marriage for love was meant to end in tragedy.

Some guy named Spear shaking, or something, wrote it.

Bard · Post by **Bard** » Wed Jul 20, 2011 5:27 pm

Malicious Wraith wrote:QUOTE (Malicious Wraith @ Jul 20 2011, 12:11 PM) There is this moderately well known 16th Century story that would have you think that marriage for love was meant to end in tragedy.

Some guy named Spear shaking, or something, wrote it.

Oh yeah, I've heard of that.

Shaxbeard, was it?