Buy a motorcycle and don't ever +1 anything that Adept types about men or women. He is a complete sexist.
As Pico will tell you. Pain is temporary and chicks dig scars.
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-1 to the slut shaming thing. You should shame her for that. In the same way you'd shame some *#$@bag who feels the need to tell you how awesome his/her life is, how they tried 5 new drugs last week, how they went golfing 5 times last week, or how fabulous their new vegan diet is. Screw 'em!
Well, not literally.
You should walk away and keep it to a "coffee-every-3-months" friendquaintanceship until you are stable again.
Also, PM Bacon for his immense wisdom.
Well, not literally.
You should walk away and keep it to a "coffee-every-3-months" friendquaintanceship until you are stable again.
Also, PM Bacon for his immense wisdom.


Let's assume that all her intentions are pure, and that she's really trying to be nice to you.
1. She feels bad that she's your only / one of a few connections to the "outside".
2. She doesn't want to be with you but doesn't want to leave you alone because she doesn't want to see you get hurt.
3. This is the best way she can think of to help you deal with the situation.
By continuing to engage with her, you are keeping her from moving on with her relationship(s). She will continue to orbit you to because she feels guilty about the situation, but by talking with you, it's easing the guilt for her.
It may not seem like it, but you're in control of the situation completely. Your options include:
1. Bait her with stories of how much pain you are in. You can tell her you are cutting, dosing, etc for maximum reaction. I really wouldn't advise this course unless you're mean.
2. Let her know that you are hurting, it's no one's fault, but you really can't talk to her any more because it's making it worse. Wish her so long, and thank her for the fish.
3. Keep going like you are and you will keep getting the same results. She will just keep on "doing the right thing".
As a random guy on the internet, and no one you've ever met, you should take my advice, and go with #2. Eat lots of high-fructose products and Ramen, and lay off alcohol and avoid late night booty calls like the plague.
Now is a great time to learn to play the guitar. Seriously. Pick something you've never done before, and go do it.
Good luck, you can do it!!
1. She feels bad that she's your only / one of a few connections to the "outside".
2. She doesn't want to be with you but doesn't want to leave you alone because she doesn't want to see you get hurt.
3. This is the best way she can think of to help you deal with the situation.
By continuing to engage with her, you are keeping her from moving on with her relationship(s). She will continue to orbit you to because she feels guilty about the situation, but by talking with you, it's easing the guilt for her.
It may not seem like it, but you're in control of the situation completely. Your options include:
1. Bait her with stories of how much pain you are in. You can tell her you are cutting, dosing, etc for maximum reaction. I really wouldn't advise this course unless you're mean.
2. Let her know that you are hurting, it's no one's fault, but you really can't talk to her any more because it's making it worse. Wish her so long, and thank her for the fish.
3. Keep going like you are and you will keep getting the same results. She will just keep on "doing the right thing".
As a random guy on the internet, and no one you've ever met, you should take my advice, and go with #2. Eat lots of high-fructose products and Ramen, and lay off alcohol and avoid late night booty calls like the plague.
Now is a great time to learn to play the guitar. Seriously. Pick something you've never done before, and go do it.
Good luck, you can do it!!


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Well written this. Good advice.
BackTrak wrote:QUOTE (BackTrak @ Sep 8 2014, 06:44 AM) Let's assume that all her intentions are pure, and that she's really trying to be nice to you.
1. She feels bad that she's your only / one of a few connections to the "outside".
2. She doesn't want to be with you but doesn't want to leave you alone because she doesn't want to see you get hurt.
3. This is the best way she can think of to help you deal with the situation.
By continuing to engage with her, you are keeping her from moving on with her relationship(s). She will continue to orbit you to because she feels guilty about the situation, but by talking with you, it's easing the guilt for her.
It may not seem like it, but you're in control of the situation completely. Your options include:
1. Bait her with stories of how much pain you are in. You can tell her you are cutting, dosing, etc for maximum reaction. I really wouldn't advise this course unless you're mean.
2. Let her know that you are hurting, it's no one's fault, but you really can't talk to her any more because it's making it worse. Wish her so long, and thank her for the fish.
3. Keep going like you are and you will keep getting the same results. She will just keep on "doing the right thing".
As a random guy on the internet, and no one you've ever met, you should take my advice, and go with #2. Eat lots of high-fructose products and Ramen, and lay off alcohol and avoid late night booty calls like the plague.
Now is a great time to learn to play the guitar. Seriously. Pick something you've never done before, and go do it.
Good luck, you can do it!!





<bp|> Maybe when I grow up I can be a troll like PsycH
<bp|> or an obsessive compulsive paladin of law like Adept